You will eventually die, and it will come sooner than you expect.
What will the most important people in your life have to say when you are gone?
I have found myself wondering: “What will people say about me when I die?” …
“It doesn’t matter what you did for work, what line of employment you were in; it matters how you lived your life.”
In this life, amongst all our human relationships both intimate and otherwise, what matters beyond all else is that we are authentically kind to one another.
Kind, in each and every encounter we undertake.
Here’s the thing… Someday someone will recall back to the time you offered them a caring shoulder to lean on; they will recall that you saw the best in them when no one else could find the strength. They will recall that instead of acting in anger, you acted in love; will recall that you were tender, were compassionate and merciful. They will remember you for your genuine concern about their welfare. They will remember you for your caring.
Someday, someone will call back to a time when your connection with them mattered. And they will recall that you reached out to them in their time of need. They will remember that you offered them hope when they were desolate. That you extended them a warm welcome when they felt estranged. They will remember that you placed them first above their own needs. Because someday: someone will remember you. And they will either remember you for your kindness — your caring, your love, your understanding, your compassion, your mercy. Or they will not.
It’s as simple as that.
It doesn’t matter a hill of beans how high you have climbed the ladder in the corporate world, how much you have acquired. Nor does it matter how simple your expectations might be in this life. It doesn’t matter what successes your have seen to or what failures you have been prone to. At the end of your life, when you lie on your own deathbed and your loved ones are gathered round, what matters is how you have lived your life.That’s it. And if you have lived life compassionately — with caring and kindness — you have done life well.
Everyone can be kind. It’s something we all can choose to do as we live this life. We all have that available option at our disposal: the choice to show kindness. To be caring. To extend our hearts. To be kind with every part of our being, radiating love to the people we meet. This choice is ours for the making. And at the end of the day, it’s the choice that people will remember most about us when we’re gone.
It’s not our significant successes or accomplishments that linger long in hearts and minds, but rather our kindness and caring that people will remember. That’s what really matters.
May we all aspire to leave behind a legacy of kindness!